Growing Up Vs Growing Out

A recent altercation with a dear friend got me thinking and this is what I came up with…

After the altercation I felt really bad (forcing myself not to use colloquial language:)) and I discussed my reactions with a friend who is equally close to me. Part of his response was maybe it is because of my age and that I will come to terms with such things with time. The answer seemed least logical. Forget satisfying my intent to ask him if the reason of the fight seemed genuine or not, it made me think on what he said.

When I thought about what he said, he was partially correct. If you think I am talking about the part where he said I was young and that’s why took it differently, I beg to disagree. Because growing up isn’t half as important as growing out. It makes for an interesting comparison.
Look at yourself today and recall your childhood. All of us, at some point of time or the other in our childhood have cried crazy over not being bought a certain dress or a toy or something else. Now if you look back at the event you laugh it off. Why? Not because it was 15 years back but because now it seems so trivial, so petty in the overall scheme of things that-it just doesn’t matter till the time the overall picture was ok.

Similarly, I believe, when we talk about someone being really mature and respect their opinions and comments; we actually respect them not for their age but for their ability to have grown out of the daily chores and look at the bigger scheme of things.

Carrying this thought I have resolved to try and grow out of certain nuances I have and carried unintentionally. I think I am succeeding so far. For the rest, time will tell.
I, thus, conclude by saying that we should try and grow out of as many idiosyncrasies as we are aware of. For those that we aren’t aware of-Surf Excel Hai Na!J But I think I would call myself fortunate to have people around me who have opinions and like to share them. I want to work on them to be the best I can be- are you listening to your circle of trust? (Don’t mistake ‘The Circle of Trust’ as what Robert Deneiro calls Ben Stiller’s wedding ring- I mean your group of people who you trust and value- the real assets of your life)

“Till then keep smiling-You never know when you will loose your teeth!”